Return to Principles


Getting lost along your way in life can be frustrating, even depressing.

I have outlets to escape any buildup of self-doubt – because indecision and uncertainty can crop up occasionally.

But in times of directional floundering, I realized I need to return to the principles.

Those principles guide me through questions of direction.

Guideposts like being proactive, having goals, doing what needs to be done, and being an empathetic, considerate, always-seeking-improvement kind of person.

In being aware of my values, I can set forth ambitiously on a path with a destination in mind.

Gotta return to my principles.




Prioritizing Priorities

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What is most important for you (me) in life?

Do you (I) have a pecking order of principles/goals/ideals/morals?

How do I make decisions?

This is where it would help to know my own guiding principles, and perhaps having those life guidelines written down somewhere would be useful too, right?  But I’m not lingering here on my deficiencies – like how I have difficulty in keeping promises to myself, and how lazy I am.  I know this already.

Knowing, and being aware of my priorities is usually easy., umm..I think.  But maintaining the effort it takes to stay strict with myself is wherein the problem lies.

One thought…

Is making a decision because of money a bad thing?  No, right?  Or is it?

How about if I am in a position to help a friend? By taking less money.

I realized….

If the amount of money is not significantly bigger than what I want (give me this, give me that..) then whats the difference between the two choices?  It’s me.

I would feel like a dick if I asked for more, to do the same job I did before.  Why?

Why would I feel bad for asking for more?

Am I worth it?  Yes.

So why feel bad?

Because if I really wanted to help him – I do – then the money shouldn’t matter.

I say I want to help people.  I tell myself I want to elevate the people around me.

Here is an opportunity, also advantageous for me, beyond the good I would feel (sort of) for helping him.

If there is any part of me that thinks this is a bad idea, it’s the little pain-in-the-ass devil on my shoulder.

There goes one day!( …. more or less….not really, just 9-4…..) the little red devil would whisper in honeyed tones to my hairy ear lobe.


So I guess I have reached my decision.

Or have I….?  Shit, I don’t know now.

I’m gonna have to figure this out later.


Where do they lie…?



There is Always a Choice


Y, T, and I had our bags packed and were ready to fly to Canada.

When we arrived at the airport, we discovered the plane would be delayed 3 hours.  First choice: be annoyed or just accept it.

It’s so easy to choose the path of least resistance, and often that path is the one of negativity, intolerance and impatience.  But we – and by ‘we’, I mean humans – have the ability to choose however we want to feel; how we want to react; how we decide to deal with every situation, whether under, or out of our control.

Yes, the plane being delayed was annoying and unexpected.  But we had no timelines nor further reservations or connections to worry about.  So we continued, happy to be on another trip.

After waiting to check-in, we were presented with another situation: T did not have the necessary electronic travel authorisation (eTA) to fly to Canada, despite being both a Canadian and Japanese citizen.  The summer before we traveled to Canada with the exact same documentation (a Japanese passport and no eTA).  But the rules changed in December of 2016.

So T, not having an eTA nor a Canadian passport would not be allowed to board the plane.  This realization was shocking, depressing, saddening, maddening and simply unfortunate.  My head and heart became cloudy with emotion.  With no solution in sight, and only a couple of hours before the flight was to leave, we assessed the situation.

The main purpose of our trip was to provide quality time together for T and my mother.  If I made the trip alone, I might not be able to enjoy myself, leaving my family behind.  Canceling the tickets wasn’t much of an option because they were so cheap, that the cancelation fee would have be similar to the overall price.  Perhaps a trip elsewhere – Austria, Thailand, Australia – would be interesting we thought.  Our bags were already packed and we were already at an airport with the time booked off.

I sat down to consider the options.  I had ceased to depressed when I realized that we had other options, and would be able to get a passport perhaps a month later and fulfill our goals at a later time.  Sure the money was annoying, but this situation was beyond our  control at that point.  With an open mind and a fresh perspective of adventure I started to think.

But yet, I still wasn’t completely convinced Canada was out of the question.  I checked the immigration Canada website, looking for answers.  Sure enough, I found the rule change that had prevented T from traveling.  But then I found something else: a loophole.  It was this:  Canadian citizens without a Canadian passport who are traveling within the next four days are eligible for a special travel authorisation.  T fit this description perfectly.  Similar to an eTA, the process was done online through an application submitted to the embassy.  Great, I thought, now I just submit the application and wait.  I waited, and waited some more, but no response came.

I walked over to Y to discuss what I had found and to evaluate our next move.  Perhaps a response from immigration wouldnt come until Monday.  It was late Friday afternoon, and we all know governments don’t work on weekends.  I told the lady working at the counter about our situation and that we were waiting to receive special authorisation.  But the minutes continued to pass, and it seemed doomed.  We resigned ourselves to the fact that we couldnt go to Canada this time, and mentally and emotionally we moved on to our next plan.  It was going to be great no matter what we decided!

I’m a big believer in the power of vibrations.  Our feelings and emotions are manifested through vibrations and sent out as powerful indications of our energy.  Every living being sends off wavelengths and vibrations.  Producing positive vibrations attracts similar vibrations, and with that, good things inevitably follow.

After we took control of our feelings of disappointment and failure, we shifted gears.  With new excitement and energy, we realized our choices were plentiful, and acted accordingly.  It was then that the lady came running over and said, ‘You can go to Canada, you’ve been approved!’  The feeling of relief and happiness washed over me.

Challenging situations happen often.  It’s our choice how we react to them.