Return to Principles


Getting lost along your way in life can be frustrating, even depressing.

I have outlets to escape any buildup of self-doubt – because indecision and uncertainty can crop up occasionally.

But in times of directional floundering, I realized I need to return to the principles.

Those principles guide me through questions of direction.

Guideposts like being proactive, having goals, doing what needs to be done, and being an empathetic, considerate, always-seeking-improvement kind of person.

In being aware of my values, I can set forth ambitiously on a path with a destination in mind.

Gotta return to my principles.




Prioritizing Priorities

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What is most important for you (me) in life?

Do you (I) have a pecking order of principles/goals/ideals/morals?

How do I make decisions?

This is where it would help to know my own guiding principles, and perhaps having those life guidelines written down somewhere would be useful too, right?  But I’m not lingering here on my deficiencies – like how I have difficulty in keeping promises to myself, and how lazy I am.  I know this already.

Knowing, and being aware of my priorities is usually easy., umm..I think.  But maintaining the effort it takes to stay strict with myself is wherein the problem lies.

One thought…

Is making a decision because of money a bad thing?  No, right?  Or is it?

How about if I am in a position to help a friend? By taking less money.

I realized….

If the amount of money is not significantly bigger than what I want (give me this, give me that..) then whats the difference between the two choices?  It’s me.

I would feel like a dick if I asked for more, to do the same job I did before.  Why?

Why would I feel bad for asking for more?

Am I worth it?  Yes.

So why feel bad?

Because if I really wanted to help him – I do – then the money shouldn’t matter.

I say I want to help people.  I tell myself I want to elevate the people around me.

Here is an opportunity, also advantageous for me, beyond the good I would feel (sort of) for helping him.

If there is any part of me that thinks this is a bad idea, it’s the little pain-in-the-ass devil on my shoulder.

There goes one day!( …. more or less….not really, just 9-4…..) the little red devil would whisper in honeyed tones to my hairy ear lobe.


So I guess I have reached my decision.

Or have I….?  Shit, I don’t know now.

I’m gonna have to figure this out later.


Where do they lie…?



The Right Attitude

I remember something Tintin said at the end of a story: All’s well that ends well.  It’s simple, and doesnt really have a deeper meaning I think.  But it’s appropriate for the trip that I just recently completed.


I had misgivings about the trip ahead of time.  I was responsible for the safety, security, enjoyment, and general flow of the schedule for two people.  There were financial issues, and legal concerns, as well as miscommunication slip-ups that created a slightly uncomfortable and uneasy agreement between myself and the clients and almost threatened to derail the whole trip.  Nevertheless, I decided to continue through with the plan and I can point to the moment where I made that decision.

I sat down and thought about why I had planned the trip, and what factors contributed to me agreeing to do so.  I realized that all my anxiety and negativity concerning the trip could only result in something undesirable.  So I made a decision to think about the trip in terms of positive outcomes only.  I put aside all the what-ifs, and focused on the pluses that surrounded the trip; the reasons I decided to do it in the first place.  My mind had tricked me into thinking there were too many negatives for the trip to succeed; I merely had to revert back to my original mindset in order for everything to be right again.  If the trip had any chance of succeeding, then I needed to believe that it would.  Thinking the opposite was counterproductive.  So I flipped the mental switch and once again began imagining the best results.

I am what I think I am.  I become what I think I will become.

Thus the trip was a huge success.  It was a great learning experience in so many ways, and it started from the beginning with the correct attitude.